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What I Wish I’d Known- Part 3

So, this post has sort of become a tradition for me. After graduating from UNC in 2005, I was unable to attend the 2006 UNC Graduation, so I wrote an entry on what I wish I’d known when I’d graduated from college. Last year, because of my own graduation from UGA, I was unable to attend the 2007 UNC Graduation…and so I wrote another entry on what I’d wish I’d known when I’d graduated from college. I decided that I’d share these with my friends who were venturing out in the world, with hopes that it would be a bit of encouragement as they would face a world that is not always kind.

So, as graduation season is among us again- it’s time for Part 3 of What I Wish I’d Known When I Graduated from College

1. Work Experience is equally, if not more valuable, than Graduate School

As I write, I’m completing my first year at my first real job. And while Graduate School was helpful in the process of gaining knowledge towards what I will eventually be doing, I’m almost certain that having prior job experience would have assisted me greatly on this job. Don’t get me wrong- I’m a HUGE proponent of education and advanced degrees- especially in this economy and in these times. However, the skills that are gained from the first job are so valuable. Don’t rush graduate school- it’ll be there. Go find that first job that you feel overqualified for so that you can be humbled.

2. You’re figuring it out- just like everyone else

The adjustments from school to the real world are challenging. Being an adult with real responsibilities can put you in shock. Trust me. It all happens so fast. I’ve spent a lot of time talking with and observing some adults that I admire, and what I value the most is that like me, they’re still trying to figure it all out. No one has all the answers; we all just have our experiences. At best, we’re taking it one day at a time, learning from past situations, and hoping not to make the same mistakes twice. Don’t be afraid to not know, and enjoy the process of figuring it out.

3. Gasp! You might be like your parents!

For most of my entire life, I’ve heard how much I look like my mom- and I’ve never seen it until last week. I realized that all of the people who had told me that over the course of the last 24 years were somewhat correct. However, what I really mean is that you will find yourself doing things that your parents have done- and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Honestly, learning from their mistakes and their good decisions is very wise- and can serve you well. Besides, your parents did provide YOU. And that’s a good thing.

4. You might not be who you think you are

I think I’ve said before how college really elevates your sense of self-esteem, and how it really makes you feel like you are somebody (and you are!). While college can show you what you’re made of, it’s not until you go out in the world that you really figure out who you are- and you might not be the person that you thought you were. Your friends might not be the people that you thought they were, either. As we go out of our collegiate bubble, life happens- and we grow, change, and adapt to it. As that happens, we realize who we are- and that who we were in college is only a hint of who we will become.

So that’s all! Congratulations Class of 2008! Best wishes for your future!

Links to previous “What I Wish I’d Known Entries”:

From 2007

From 2006


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Finally, something good from Duke

It’s hard for me to believe that anything good could come from Duke, other than something in the likes of Grant Hill, Dahntay Jones, and Jason Williams. However, after reading this article in the AJC, I realized that I may have been wrong.

The article explores the hypocrisy of white culture as it relates to Michael Vick. While I initially thought that it would address how it seems that white culture has completely alienated Michael Vick, this article is written purely from an animal rights perspective. Though I’m not familiar with animal rights, I can appreciate what is being said.

Here’s an excerpt of the article:

We need to face the fact that dog fighting is not the only “sport” that abuses animals. Cruelty also occurs in rodeos, horse and dog racing (all of which mistreat animals and often kill them when no longer useful). There are also millions of dogs and cats we put to death in “shelters” across the country because they lack a home, and billions of creatures we torture in factory farms for our food.

Vick treated his dogs very cruelly; there is no question about that. But I see one important difference between these more socially acceptable mistreatments and the anger focused on Vick: Vick is black, and most of the folks in charge of the other activities are white.

Some might argue that the difference between dogfighting and these other forms of animal abuse is that dogfighting is illegal. That’s true, but the fact that dogfighting is illegal while other institutions remain acceptable is because dogfighting no longer a sport of the middle and upper class.

Dogfighting (and cock fighting) used to be “sports” enjoyed by the upper classes in the United States and were, then, perfectly legal.

In the last 50 years, however, they have become the domain mostly of blacks, Latinos and poor whites — and were ruled illegal. Now, while white middle and upper classes continue to watch horses run to the point of exhaustion and risk breaking their legs, they regard dogfighting as something that only low-class “thugs and drug dealers” find entertaining. Indeed, a reading of many of the Vick news stories indicts him and his friends as much for being involved in hip-hop subculture as for fighting dogs. Several proponents of animal rights have used the Vick case to draw attention to the widespread abuse of animals, but they are primarily trying to persuade people to become vegans.

I look at this another way: If we find dogfighting unacceptable but we can live with other forms of animal abuse, what is the underlying distinction? Could it have more to do with the culture surrounding the human beings involved and less to do with the animals?

I am not saying dogfighting is acceptable, but rather that Vick should be publicly criticized for that activity, not for his participation in hip-hop subculture. Whether or not dogs are fought more by minorities than white people is actually unknown, but the media representations of the last several weeks make it appear that black culture and dogfighting are inextricably intertwined. We need to find ways to condemn dogfighting without denigrating black culture with it.

What do you think?