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Am I Mature?

A few weeks ago, my pastor preached a sermon entitled “Are You of the World or of the Word?”  As with all of his sermons, it was GREAT, but this one really left me thinking about where I am in regards to my maturity.

Most of the time, I feel like I am a mature, responsible person.  As a wife, I take care of my husband and our home; as an employee, I manage my responsibilities to my students, my coworkers, and my colleagues in other offices.  I do all these “responsible” “adult” things like pay bills and be at work on time, help take care of our daughter- so that HAS to mean I’m mature, right?  Do I always get it right?  Not exactly.  But more often than not, I handle these things pretty well.

And then my pastor shared these three signs of maturity:

  1. What You Say: Am I saying immature things?  Do I still speak like a child?
  2. What You Think: How is my thought life?  What do I allow my brain to think?
  3. What You Reason/Calculate: Are my calculations mature?  Am I assigning the right value to things?

So looking at this a little closer and reflecting on things, I realized that I may not be as mature as I thought.  While I may not speak like a child, there are times where my reactions are child-like, because I feel that something is unfair or unjust.  Don’t believe me?  Just ask Preacherman.  And because our responses are just as important, if not more important than our calculated thoughts, I have know that I have room for growth in the things that I say.

While I have definitely been working on my thought life this year, I know that this is another area where I could stand to improve.  One of the things that my pastor said that really stuck out was, “You can tell what your thoughts are by what your mouth says.”  This is true.  Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.  So those things that I’m thinking, those things that are stored up, will eventually be revealed by what I say.  In order to be mature, my mind and my heart must be right.  Or as my pastor says, “Get your mind working for you and not against you.”

Finally, I think that I’m strongest in what I reason and/or calculate.  This doesn’t mean that there isn’t room for growth; however, I have worked over the years to make sure that my motive and reasoning for my actions is Christ-like.

When I think about this lesson in maturity, I’ve realized a couple of things.  The first is that mastering these three items (what I say, what I think, what I reason) is crucially important because it can affect my witness.  In conjunction with that, as a believer, I don’t ever want to misrepresent Christ.  I’m extremely aware of the fact that many people struggle with their faith because they see so many people misrepresenting Christ.  I don’t want that to be me.  Mastering my maturity and continuing to grow in wisdom in regards to what I say, think, and reason can surely help make sure that I’m a positive reflection of Christ, His grace, mercy, and love.

How’s your maturity?  Where do you need to grow?

Be encouraged!  Peace and Blessings


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Press Reset

I’ve been hoping and praying all year that it wouldn’t come to this.

I started this year out with the best of intentions, and was fairly faithful in my progress- at least initially.

But then, I just got swamped. Late nights and early mornings, trying to balance family life, work life, regular life, and my school life. Finally, the moment came where I’d have to do what I’d been hoping all along would NOT have to happen: I had to press “Catch me up” on my bible reading plan app.

I know for some of you, this may not be that serious.  But for me, it was an immediate and striking reminder of how I had become too busy; of how the “urgent” began to crowd out the “important”.  And the thing is- I recognized it when I was just a few days behind in my reading plan, but instead of taking immediate action to fix it (i.e.: devote some extra time to reading and studying the word), I just kinda casually dealt with it- reading a little extra here, a little extra there; but not enough to be significant or to make any real progress or to see any real results.

The truth is that I viewed pressing that “Catch me up” button as a failure, instead of as an opportunity to learn, grow, and recalibrate myself to prioritize the items that I feel are most important.  By being bound to this mindset, I got further behind instead of making even the slightest hint of progress.

Life is kind of like that.  We hate to press the reset button.  We never want to have to catch up, because having to catch up means having to admit that we were behind instead of “on par” or “ahead”.  But what I learned is that it’s okay to press the reset button.  It’s okay to have to catch up and reorganize your priorities.  It’s better to take the steps necessary to move forward and progress than to stay stuck because you have too much pride to admit that you were behind in the first place.

In what areas of your life do you need to press the reset button?  Let me encourage you to JUST DO IT!  You’ll feel better afterwards- I promise!

Be encouraged!  Peace and blessings!