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But Have You Asked?

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” – Matthew 7:7-8 (NIV84)

When I was a kid, my parents were INSISTENT that I ask for things that I wanted.  There was no declaration of “I want juice” or “I want apples”.  If I wanted something, I had to ask.  And not only did I have to ask, but I had to ask politely.  As an adult who oftentimes encounters students who have not had this training, I’m appreciative of the discipline that my parents instilled in me by requiring me to ask for things.

That’s not to say that I always got it right.  There were quite a few times where I forgot the rules and made declarative statements, that often resulted in confused looks from my parents.  You know, the look that says, “But who are YOU talking to like THAT in THIS house?”  Yeah, that look.  And then I remembered that I needed to ask for what I wanted- especially if I desired a response, and even moreso if I hoped that the response was in the affirmative for me.

It’s kind of like that with God too.  We have all of these things that we desire- and so we say that.  It can sound something like this:

  • “I want a new job.”
  • “I want a new car.”
  • “I want to be debt-free.”
  • “I want to find a church home.”

There are numerous things that we desire- but the real question is, “Have you asked for it?”.  And I mean this in a sincere way- but have you truly submitted that request to God?  If there’s something you desire that you have yet to receive, is it because you haven’t asked for it?

I’m willing to bet that you’ve tossed around some declarations (like the ones I’ve listed above), but haven’t asked.  It’s not the same.  And if you really want it- what are you waiting for?  Ask away!  Ask in faith, knowing that God can do more than we can ask or imagine.  And after you’ve asked- believe for the affirmative.  Don’t allow anything to talk you out of what you’ve asked for.  God can.  God will.  He’s able!

Be encouraged!  Peace and Blessings!


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Be Nice or Be Quiet

I have very little patience for people who say mean things.  I know that sometimes people don’t always mean to, but it still bothers me.  I feel like there are so many areas of life where we hear negative things (especially on the news), that we should hold ourselves accountable to saying nice, positive things to each other.

Now, I will also acknowledge that this is difficult.  There have been quite a few “bite my tongue” or “Lord, hold my mule” moments in my life (or in the last week).  I still have to fight the urge to not pop off and say the first thing that comes to mind when I feel that someone has approached me in the wrong way or has verbally attacked me.  I often tell Preacherman that I’m glad that there’s not a scrolling marquee on my forehead because I’d find myself in some trouble in certain situations.

However, for 2013, I’ve decided that I REALLY want to be purposeful and intentional about the words that I speak.  And as I continued to think about what it means to mind my mouth (or rather, getting my mouth to mind my mind), I arrived at this: “Be nice or be quiet”.  It’s probably not that much different than what I learned as a kid of , “if you don’t have anything nice to say, you shouldn’t say anything at all.”  But sometimes, we don’t take hold of those lessons as we should as children, and we need to learn them again as adults.

But on another note, this has been my approach to any situation that threatens my peace of mind and my confidence.  The devil is real, and his ability to attack our mind is real.  And if he can attack my mind, he can steal my peace, my confidence, my joy, my hope, my salvation.  So, I feel that for this year, as I’m believing God for great things, I must address the enemy.  I can’t expect him to be nice or to play nice, but I don’t have to listen to him- and I can tell him to be quiet.

I can choose to listen to the foolishness of the enemy, or I can choose to fill myself with my word, with positive music, confessions, and affirmations until I have effectively tuned him out. Be nice or be quiet is more than what I choose to say to others, but it’s also about what I choose to say and HEAR myself.  I’m believing God for FAR TOO MUCH this year, and the devil won’t talk me (or have me talk myself) out of my promise.

Be mindful that the voice of the devil comes in many forms- it can be the nagging uncertainty that you feel after you’re excited to try something new, or it can be the “friend” who’s never able to share in your joy about your accomplishments or aspirations, or it can be the person in your family who never thought you’d amount to anything.  Be mindful of those voices and be willing to tell them the same thing you’re telling yourself: BE NICE OR BE QUIET!

Peace and Blessings!