It’s hard to believe, but in a few days (like 8), Preacherman and I will have been married for six months. This first half-year of our marriage has flown by, and it’s been an incredible experience learning and growing together.
This past weekend, I had the opportunity to visit two places that I haven’t been in a while- my old high school and my former job. Both were filled with people who haven’t seen me since Preacherman and I got married. While it was great to catch up with people and see people who I haven’t seen in a bit, I heard variations of the following comments frequently:
“You look so happy! Marriage really agrees with you!”
“It’s so good to see you! You look great! Marriage is treating you well!”
Now, I just smiled and said thank you, because I do agree that marriage agrees with me and is treating me well. And while I am no marriage expert, I am happily married. But I was so surprised that so many people were surprised that I look (and am) happily married.
Seriously. What is this about? Was I supposed to get married and just fall off? Was I supposed to get married and become unhappy? I’m so confused.
Not only am I confused, but I’m also sad that people have associated marriage with unhappiness (both in terms of looks and emotions). Marriage isn’t supposed to be that way, and I don’t think that anyone enters marriage expecting to be unhappy. No one agrees to be with someone for the rest of their life with the expectation that it will be horrible.
For those of you who are married, engaged, seriously dating, or plan to be married at SOME point- please do me a favor: MAKE MARRIAGE LOOK GOOD. Be happy. Enjoy your spouse. LIKE (and love) your spouse. Be their FRIEND. Speak well of them to others. Do the work that it requires. Remember and remind them why you love them. Let us each do our part in promoting marriage as wonderful, fulfilling, engaging, lifelong relationship; instead of something that leads people down the path of despair.
Be encouraged! Peace and blessings!
May 2, 2013 at 11:50 am
Great Blog Post Mrs. Almond.. Shine Bright Like A Diamond!!!
Marriage looks GREAT on you!!!
May 2, 2013 at 12:43 pm
Erin! So excited that your marriage is on the right path and that you have the right attitude! My sister and I had a double wedding and were married young. I think many people were curious if our marriages were going to last and have also received the same types of comments! However, I’m glad to report and give praise that God has blessed our marriages and we are going on seven years strong! I think many people fail to learn what the real definition of marriage is and especially that God MUST be the center of the union. I agree on making marriage look good and lets start speaking life and blessings into our marriages!
May 2, 2013 at 12:47 pm
Hi Chamel! So good to hear your praise report! I’m grateful for how God has blessed our union, but also provided other couples who have been doing marriage for a while around us for support! And you are right- we MUST speak life and blessings into our marriages! I will have what I say, and I can say what I will have. I’m believing God for a shift where marriage will be honored and viewed as the blessing that it is!
May 2, 2013 at 3:29 pm