It’s hard to believe, but in a few days (like 8), Preacherman and I will have been married for six months. This first half-year of our marriage has flown by, and it’s been an incredible experience learning and growing together.
This past weekend, I had the opportunity to visit two places that I haven’t been in a while- my old high school and my former job. Both were filled with people who haven’t seen me since Preacherman and I got married. While it was great to catch up with people and see people who I haven’t seen in a bit, I heard variations of the following comments frequently:
“You look so happy! Marriage really agrees with you!”
“It’s so good to see you! You look great! Marriage is treating you well!”
Now, I just smiled and said thank you, because I do agree that marriage agrees with me and is treating me well. And while I am no marriage expert, I am happily married. But I was so surprised that so many people were surprised that I look (and am) happily married.
Seriously. What is this about? Was I supposed to get married and just fall off? Was I supposed to get married and become unhappy? I’m so confused.
Not only am I confused, but I’m also sad that people have associated marriage with unhappiness (both in terms of looks and emotions). Marriage isn’t supposed to be that way, and I don’t think that anyone enters marriage expecting to be unhappy. No one agrees to be with someone for the rest of their life with the expectation that it will be horrible.
For those of you who are married, engaged, seriously dating, or plan to be married at SOME point- please do me a favor: MAKE MARRIAGE LOOK GOOD. Be happy. Enjoy your spouse. LIKE (and love) your spouse. Be their FRIEND. Speak well of them to others. Do the work that it requires. Remember and remind them why you love them. Let us each do our part in promoting marriage as wonderful, fulfilling, engaging, lifelong relationship; instead of something that leads people down the path of despair.
Be encouraged! Peace and blessings!