this post has been a while in the making. i know that black men take a lot of crap from women (just as us black women take a lot of crap from men), but i figured i’d put up a little something to let them know they are appreciated…

A Salute to the Good Black Men…
“Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like.

He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!”

A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up – he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow…”

that said…shoutouts to all the good black men in my life that i have been blessed to know! i love y’all!

be blessed, be encouraged, be faithful…

so it’s a new year. 2006! i know alphas everywhere are excited. i can’t believe it’s 2006 already. 2005 was such a good year, full of so many blessings and surprises. i thank God that i made it through another year, and i’m so excited about all of the things in store for this year.

in a few days, i’ll officially be “miss davis”. yeah, i’m about to step into the classroom as a teacher, teaching economics to high school juniors. that’s so weird, because i definitely remember my junior year of high school. i’m also not too certain about economics, but i figure that God has given me all i need to do what i have to do. so i should be fine.

something else that’s weird is that i LOVE college football. being at uga for a SEMESTER has transformed me. don’t get me wrong, i’m a TARHEEL and i will ALWAYS bleed carolina blue. but there really is something about SEC football. being at the ga center and decorating for games, along with seeing all the fans and alumni…and who could forget uga vi! my first uga game was the sugar bowl (how many people can say that?), and although we lost, it was such an incredible experience. usually i’m excited about the end of college football, but now i’m slightly saddened. it’s all good though…basketball can hold me over till the summer, and then i can break from sports to be good and ready for football all over again.

i started 2006 on the plane…coming back from phoenix, and the message that i got from God is that he’s still faithful to us (or me). as 2006 came in, the song that started playing on my ipod (which was on shuffle) was “great is thy faithfulness”. i was almost moved to tears, just at how God is ALWAYS at work, and consistently reminding us that he is there and faithful to us. i had been worried about how i was going to make it through this semester, but now i’m encouraged. thanks God!

that’s all for now…be encouraged!

“great is thy faithfulness. morning by morning, new mercies i see. all i have needed, thy hand hath provided. great is thy faithfulness, Lord unto me. “

“if it had not been for the Lord on my side, tell me where would i be…”