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being an adult

Okay, so I’m realizing that I’m a real-life adult.  I get up early, go to bed early, have coffee before work, dress up for work, commute too far for a job that pays too little.  I also try to run errands during lunch (pay bills, go to the cleaners, quick trips to the grocery store), pack my lunch when I can (real adults know that eating out gets to be too expensive), and I contemplate the direction of my life on a daily (hourly, minute-by minute, second-by-second) basis.  Saturdays are reserved for all the things that I can’t take care of on my lunch break, and respective meetings/commitments/appointments.  I go to church on most Sundays, Oh yeah, and I yell at people in traffic (no matter what day of the week it is).

So yeah, the realization for today is that I’m seriously becoming a real-life adult.  Like a FOR REAL grown up.  What in the world?  How did this happen?  And where was I went it took place?  The crazy thing is that I don’t FEEL like an adult.  I actually feel like I was just in college last week.

What I have discovered is that no one REALLY knows how to be an adult.  We’re all just figuring it out as we go along and trying not to make the same mistakes that we’ve made before.  I wish I’d known before that this is what being an adult is all about.  However, it would be slightly easier to manage adulthood if there had been some sort of handbook to the essentials: health insurance, 401k, investments, etc.  I sat in the orientation for my job taking notes as if I was studying for a final exam…all so that I could call my mother and ask what everything meant.

There are advantages to being an adult.  I mean, I’m really excited about my insurance dropping in a few months when I turn 25.  I’m also excited and pleased with my own personal growth- growing even more into who I am and what I desire to be.  I think that becoming an adult just happened a lot faster than I thought…


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an unusual sunday

Today I did a couple of things that I usually don’t do on Sundays: stay home from church and wash clothes.  I usually don’t wash clothes because of how I was raised: Sunday is the Lord’s Day, and we don’t do work on the Lord’s Day.  I recall waking up VERY early on Monday mornings on some occasions to wash the special item that I wanted to wear to school that day (that I had inconveniently forgotten to put with the wash on Saturday) because washing on Sundays was out of the question.

On the other end- staying home from church doesn’t happen often.  I usually have responsibilities at church that require me to be there (ie: Trustee Board, YPD, Pastor’s Assistant, Sunday School)…and I still had them today, but I felt that I needed to take some time for me.  I understand the argument that taking time for me can be done on ANY OTHER DAY of the week; however, my church involvement has become rather extensive to the point where for the sake of balance, I might need some time off.

A friend and I discussed how free it felt to actually “skip” church, just because of how in some ways we feel a little overwhelmed with our church commitments.  I think that the personal challenge is to find a balance in all aspects of life, but to also be in a place where you can use the gifts and talents that God has given you to uplift the kingdom in the best possible way.  On the other hand, I think that churches are excited to have young adults who desire to be involved, and their challenge is to not exclude them from areas they can serve, and to not over-commit and subsequently burn out the young adults.

So while my Sunday was unique- I feel recharged, rejuvenated, and refreshed.  I won’t be making a habit of any of these- washing on Sunday or not going to church; however, a break from what can sometimes be the monotony of life was good.

Be encouraged, all!